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Fear Fear


The only thing to fear is fear itself. Man that is a genius quote. You’ve heard it, right? It’s from Franklin D. Roosevelt’s first inaugural speech back in 1933. Things were tumultuous then. Things are tumultuous now. And we wonder how we can move forward; how we can conquer the fear. Here’s what I’m thinking:

It’s totally natural to have fear. Fear of heights. Fear of public speaking. Fear of starting a new year at school, a new job, a new relationship. Fear of riding on a plane for the first time or, if you’re like me, fear of bats (ugh).

So often, this fear comes from a place of ignorance, irrationality, or preconceived notions. It doesn’t make the fear any less valid, but it’s incredibly important to acknowledge its source.

But this emotion – fear – it can’t control us. Think of all the times you’ve overcome your fears: You started that new job and kicked ass. You rode on a plane and went thousands of miles in a few hours (wow!). You conquered something that was holding you back, and it was exhilarating. When you realize you can take on your fears, you can do anything.

Fear of each other and our differences – these are the fears I want to talk about today. So much of what’s wrong with the world right now stems from not understanding or being willing to accept that all of us humans are different.

You and your wife? You are totally different, right? (Think about how you load the dishwasher, amIright?) Your best friend is not exactly like you either, thank goodness. Otherwise you’d never be able to kick each others’ butts into gear when you need it.

What else? Your Muslim neighbor worships her God differently than you worship yours. Your atheist co-worker goes on a hike in the woods every Sunday. The cashier at the grocery store doesn’t own a television while the person grabbing organic pears in the produce aisle is a Game of Thrones aficionado. We all love to do different things.

But the fear comes from thinking that one way is the right way. It festers and grows and fear becomes hate that becomes, maybe, evil. Then it all leads to war and terror and hate crimes and a whole bunch of isolated, disconnected people.

So we ask ourselves: What can we do? It’s too big! What can we do?!

Don’t worry – there’s always something we can do.

Maybe we all love chocolate chip cookies. I bet we might. Try making some for your neighbors – especially the ones you haven’t met yet.

I’m certain we all love laughing. And I’m with Buddy the Elf – smiling’s my favorite. Smile at the people you cross paths with on the street. Look them in the eye. Especially if your first thought is to look away. Make eye contact. Smile. It’s simple.

We’re all looking for connections. Strike up a conversation with a person in a crowd that looks out of place. Odds are they want to be welcomed in – otherwise they wouldn’t be in that crowd. Don’t assume they’re strange or weird or dangerous. They’re definitely not like you – no one is – and that’s the beauty of it all! Remember the exhilaration of overcoming fears. Of trying new things. Of making new friends. Maybe you’ll shed some important light to an issue that new friend hadn’t thought of yet. Maybe you’ll humanize an issue for them, put a fear to rest, and change the world for the better.

The best way to end fear of the unknown is to get to know it.

Trying new things can be scary. It’s comfortable to stay in your house, in your pajamas, turn on another episode of the Walking Dead, and wait for it all to burn the f*&k down.

But the reality is that we don’t really want it all to burn down.

Mr. Rogers says look for the helpers. I love that quote. But here’s a secret: You’re one of the helpers. We’re all the helpers. We’re all the heroes. We all have the opportunity to affect change. Look inside, start with yourself, and start today.


And for f*cks sake, vote! If you missed the primaries, well… no regrets, but do better next time, and VOTE this November. Educate yourself on ALL the politicians on your ballot and VOTE!  It is so important and we are so lucky we live in a democracy that allows this. The system might not be ideal for you, but it will only change if you vote in people you believe will help better it.


The Only Thing to Fear is Fear Itself – Franklin D. Roosevelt’s first inaugural speech, 1933:

“This is preeminently the time to speak the truth, the whole truth, frankly and boldly. Nor need we shrink from honestly facing conditions in our country today. This great Nation will endure as it has endured, will revive and will prosper. So, first of all, let me assert my firm belief that the only thing we have to fear is fear itself—nameless, unreasoning, unjustified terror which paralyzes needed efforts to convert retreat into advance. In every dark hour of our national life a leadership of frankness and vigor has met with that understanding and support of the people themselves which is essential to victory. I am convinced that you will again give that support to leadership in these critical days.”


Iowa Secretary of State interview with Aryn Henning Nichols (< that’s me!)



Aryn_Summer16Hi friends! I was contacted recently by Erin Bunce, the business services and social media intern at the Iowa Secretary of State’s office in Des Moines. She’s heading up a project that celebrates entrepreneurship by showcasing small Iowa businesses on their Facebook page… and they said they would love to feature Inspire(d) Media. Yay!

“We want people to learn about what it takes to start and run one’s own business, whether that be lessons learned, challenges faced, or rewards gained from his or her experience,” Erin says. “We want to share the advice, knowledge and wisdom you’ve gained from starting and running Inspired Media to encourage others to do the same.”

I loved answering the questions. Erin said they usually post just one answer on their Facebook page, though, so I thought it might be fun to share the whole interview here. Erin was on board with that idea too, so here you go!

Also, FYI, if you’re curious about what the Iowa Secretary of State actually does, here are a few things I’ve learned:

The Secretary of State office is a service center for businesses in Iowa, the nation, and the world and advocates for Iowa business, products, and the idea of making government more business friendly.

The Secretary of State is on the Voter Registration Commission, the State Insurance Committee, the Iowa Executive Council, and the State Records Commission. The Secretary (currently Paul D. Pate) co-signs, with the Governor, all commissions, proclamations, extraditions, and land patents. The Secretary of State is the state commissioner of elections and supervises Iowa’s 99 county auditors.

The Office of Secretary of State also preserves many original documents including the Constitution of the State of Iowa and the Acts of the General Assembly.

Iowa Secretary of State interview with Aryn Henning Nichols (that’s me) from Inspire(d) Media:

What does the word “entrepreneur” mean to you?

I remember the first time I heard the word entrepreneur – I was about eight, and my older sister casually dropped this big new word: “Dad’s an entrepreneur, Aryn.” I had always said, “My dad owns a sawmill and an auto shop and he’s a helicopter pilot in the National Guard too…” Entrepreneur, my sister said, meant a business owner. To me, it seemed a much quicker way of saying all the things a business-owner must do make life work. Or all the things they want to do.

These days, I think an entrepreneur is someone who finds a way to make the wants of life and needs of life interchangeable. We are all capable of creating our careers, as long as we have passion and talent. And I promise: Everyone has passion and talent – you just gotta dig for it sometimes.

What made you want to start Inspire(d) Media?

I was a senior in college when I read a biography (The Art of Life by Iowa City author Jennifer New) about a photojournalist named Dan Eldon, who was stoned to death in Somalia in 1993. His mother, Kathy Eldon, was an Iowa native, but Dan and his sister grew up in Africa. Dan was – by no means – perfect, but he still found a way – his way – to help people. I found this incredibly inspiring, and, surprisingly, it was one of the first times I felt really inspired.

I was no slouch of a gal – I did well in school, was involved in tons of activities, etc., so the fact that it took that long to feel really inspired seemed like a shame. It should be easier for people to find relatable stories that make them feel fired up to do something good. Thus, the idea of Inspire(d) Magazine was born. I wanted to create a local publication that features people in the community doing good things to change the world. Our audience can read the stories and say, “That’s my neighbor! They’re not any different from me! I can do something positive as well.” That’s the premise behind the name. Person one does something to inspire. Person two is inspired. Then person two inspires, and the cycle continues. So it’s a mash-up of the two words: Inspire(d).

What is the ultimate goal for your business?

Our ultimate goal is to change the world, honestly! But starting on a small scale, with small ripples. I’d love to see other communities with their own Inspire(d) Magazines eventually, so they, too, can start encouraging folks to volunteer, take notice of cool new opportunities, get involved in local government, support area businesses and entrepreneurs, etc. These are the changes we’re hoping to affect.


What is/was your greatest fear about starting your business?

After every magazine is published (ah, the permanence of print!), I freak out that people aren’t going to like the stories. I don’t know why – I know the stories are good – but I guess it’s human nature to worry about being accepted and liked. The fear gets smaller and smaller, though, as the years pass. On year one, magazine one, I cried because the finished product wasn’t exactly what I imagined – that’s one of the hardest things about creative work: living up to your own expectations. On magazine 46, year nine (our current summer 2016 issue), there was only a brief “Will they like it?!” And then, pride after looking through the pages. It looks pretty close to what I want it to these days, and that’s certainly good for the stress levels!

How does your business impact the lives of others in your community?

I hope it inspires people. I hope it gets people out in our community, talking to each other, connecting, and creating a better place to live.


What is the biggest obstacle you faced when beginning your business?

It’s tough being the boss, especially when the only other employee is your spouse! I love being the boss, but business and life can get really intertwined, especially when you work from home, as we do, and really love your work, as we do. So sufficiently compartmentalizing those things is a challenge. Plus also making time for yourself, to, you know…exercise and see friends. The priority pyramid has gotten clearer over the years, significantly so after having a kid.

Of course, there were other obstacles like the whole “decline of print” naysayers (which I never really worried about) and the logistics of it all –how do you actually design something (ha!), where do we print, how do we distribute, what will we do for racks, how often do we publish, etc? But you take one question at a time, and you figure it out. Then you get better at it, and you figure it all out again as the business changes.

How will your business support the community in five years? In 20 years?

I hope it continues to inspire people. Forever, really, even if the magazine isn’t around for all of eternity! It’s also a really great “community pride” thing. People living in our readership area are excited to share Inspire(d), and people visiting our communities really get a good snapshot of who we are from the publication. This is good for tourism, recruiting families to come live here, and for community and regional morale.


What do you think will be the most challenging obstacle you will have to overcome as your Inspired continues to thrive?

The biggest upcoming challenge is figuring out how to grow. We’re kind of at that point right now. Do we hire employees? Do we find an office out of the house? We’ve done things really efficiently, and I think smartly, so far. So taking that leap to the next level is a little scary. But our daughter will start preschool this fall and Inspire(d) will celebrate its tenth anniversary next year. The timing to grow seems good. We could keep going as we are, but change can be pretty fun and exciting!

ArynProfilePicOnlineWhat words of encouragement would you give someone who is on the fence about starting a business?

Start asking yourself some questions: What do you really have to lose? Are you passionate about the idea? Do you think it will really work? Do you have the skills and talents you need? Believe in yourself and your ideas – if you’re making something worthwhile, people will buy it. In my work, you’d say, “content is king”. I know I publish good stories, so I know people will read them. But that notion applies to everything. Good product equals good customers. Be your biggest cheerleader and then get the heck out there and start!

What is the most rewarding part about owning your own business?

The flexibility! Some days I hang out with my almost-four-year-old daughter. Some days I mow the lawn at two in the afternoon. Some days I work, literally, through the night. But I get to choose how I do it, and that’s pretty awesome.


Thanks for reading, friends! If you want to learn more about us, start here. Or just poke around online and let us know what you think!
Aryn Henning Nichols

Rhubarb Torte Recipe


It’s a baking kind of day here in the Driftless Region. I don’t know about you, but there are about six ripe bananas in my freezer that need to get used, and my rhubarb is on its very last stalks. Since we’re officially into summer now, let’s say goodbye to spring. Go ahead and pull that last rhubarb up, warm the kitchen (I’m seriously wearing a fleece right now), and make this yummy treat!

This has been my go-to rhubarb recipe since it was introduced to me in 2009. It’s called a torte, but it’s unlike any torte I’ve ever made before. My grandma has a similar recipe, but this one is from my good friend Kristin Torresdal’s grandma, Grace Torresdal . If you do it right, it creates a magical top crust all by itself! Try it out, and please let me know if you have any questions.

Rhubarb Torte by Grace Torresdal (transcribed by Kristin Torresdal)
*For a 9×9 pan

Preheat oven to 350

• Wash and cut rhubarb (recipe calls for 2 cups but Grandma says she usually uses close to 3)
• 1 c. cake flour (or improvise and use 1 c. minus 3 tbsp regular flour); and then add 3 tbsp corn starch…this approximates consistency of cake flour
• 5 tbsp powdered sugar
• 1/2 c. butter

MIX AND BAKE CRUST 15 mins @ 350 degrees (Ed. note: It seems pretty crumbly when you put it in the pan, but once you pat it down and bake it, it does indeed form a solid crust. Sometimes I bake it a few minutes longer because I like my crust to be nice and firm…)


(Ed. note: that “order given” part is really important. Mix each ingredient after you’ve added it – this seems to be the secret to the crust “magically” appearing in the oven.)

• 2 eggs
• 1 3/4 c. sugar
• 1/4 tsp salt
• 1/4 c flour (regular, not cake) – Grandma says ‘I throw in an extra, heaping tsp because otherwise it can get runny…especially if we’ve had rain lately and the rhubarb is moist)
• 3/4 tsp baking powder
• Rhubarb (2-3 cups, as you prefer, cut up)

Spread the filling over the crust and bake @ 350 for 30-35 minutes – Grandma says it generally takes hers 35-40 minutes because she doesn’t like it too runny…and top gets crispier…in that case, I recommend letting it sit a bit so the rhubarb juices from below rise to the top…yum!
Serve with ice cream or cream (if you can possibly handle any more sweetness!)


 *9×13 INCH PAN RECIPE (follow steps above using the measurements below)

• 1 1/2 cake flour (it’s still adequate to take out 3 tbsp regular flour and replace with 3 tbsp corn starch)
• 7 1/2 tbsp powdered sugar
• 3/4 c butter
• 3 eggs
• 2 5/8 c sugar
• 1/2 tsp salt
• 3/8 c flour (heaping tsp extra)
• 1 1/8 tsp baking powder
• 3-4 c rhubarb, cut up

I know Kristin, her grandma, and of course the team at Inspire(d) hope you enjoy this recipe, and this lovely, cool day!